|Astronaut Anna Fisher, May 1985|
When some of my friends discovered I was turning 25, they made sure to tell me I have five years left before my life is over lol. They were teasing of course, but I started to think of all the times I've heard older people who are married and/or have kids say their life was over when that happened. There seems to be a very common theme with marriage and having a family. Apparently it means that one has to hang up the proverbial "party hat." I don't buy that though, I believe there's always fun to be had :). I'm a huge optimistic including when thinking about getting older and reaching certain life milestones. I can't say I look at being married or taking on the role of a parent to be life ending. It's really the start of something new, and yes it will have it's own set of challenges, but that's just life!
I'm not married and I don't have kids but it's definitely something that I want in my life eventually. My boyfriend and I are both on the same page about marriage. We actually feel like we're married without the rings and legal papers.
When it comes to being asked if I'm married, there is one thing that "grinds my gears." When people judge the strength of my relationship due to the fact that I'm not married. How does not being married mean I'm any less committed to my boyfriend and vice versa? Everyone decides what a relationship means to them and the meaning of marriage is different for everyone. I have friends who are married and have kids, I have friends who are married but don't want kids, I have friends who aren't married and have kids, I have friends who are in a relationship but choose to never get married...why should we judge what works for other people? We shouldn't act all high and mighty and let our opinions rule out they way others choose to live. If they're happy that's all that matters! For me, marriage won't really change a whole lot, but I feel it will be special when it happens. It's the more fabulous version of receiving your diploma at graduation haha. In all seriousness though I do look forward to that day and I hope that even though everyone has a different take on marriage that they will support me and my decision to get married...and as my alter ego would say, "If you don't like it then you can fuck off!"
As for children, I freakin' love children! I have a natural way with kids, in fact my friends daughter actually asked her if I could come over to play with her last weekend haha. So I love kids and kids love me...why not have them right now? As everyone should know having children is a great responsibility. I want to ensure that if I am to have kids that I can provide the best life for them. I really need to focus on what I'm doing now in order to do that. I want to follow in my parents' footsteps. I want to prepare for the future. I intend to continue with every single ounce of opportunity they have provided me with and make the best of it! To know where my parents come from and how they grew up really inspires me to not take life for granted. So simply put...not right now because it's not the right time :). And as my alter ego would say...hahaha
I was going to write up a new bucket list but then I had a bit of an epiphany. I realized I don't need a bucket list. Everything that I do want to accomplish is attainable and isn't outrageous (well except for that helicopter ride hahaha.) Some of the goals on my last bucket list I had only accomplished in the last couple years. Some of the amazing things I had accomplished over the past years weren't even on that original list. Where I am now in my life I only see the many possibilities and ways I can meet new dreams/goals. And if I don't do something in my life that at one point I felt I really wanted to do, it's not the end of the world either because I am ever evolving and so are my dreams and goals.
For example, when I was a teenager I always dreamed of getting a belly button piercing or tattoo. It was mostly influenced by my eldest sister and many of my friends since they're inked and pierced. Although I appreciate tattoo art on other people, as I got older it wasn't important to me to get one anymore. It's something I can happily live without. And after learning more about belly button rings, it just seemed like a lot more work than what it was worth. I knew too many people with belly button rings that got sick of them. For me both of those things were a phase and I'm glad I didn't make it permanent haha.
There are a ton of things I'm proud of myself for accomplishing and there will be many more things to come. So instead of a new bucket list I want to write a sort of personal mission statement instead...because as one genius said...it's not the things you do, it's how you do them!
Where ever I am, whoever I'm with, whatever it'll be; I will always be me and live the life I was given, the life that I have earned and the life I will share with others. I will lead a full and happy life no matter what challenges fall upon me. I will expect tears, blood and sweat to be shed, but I will learn to be more resilient and I will be stronger. Even when I'm unsure of myself I will at least do myself a favor and try! I hope to only continue to surprise myself like I have many times before. I want to keep growing and I want to remain grounded. I want to have a balanced life and live in harmony. I want to share happiness, spread love and laugh everyday. I will continue to believe in myself and stand up for myself and not tolerate mistreatment from others.
That's all I got so far, but I think it's pretty good. So here I come 25! Que Sera everyone and good night!